Author of FIT FOR LOVE

Where does my or their (below) come from?

Anger, Anxiety, Depression, ADHD,

Violence, Addiction Diabetes2 & Obesity.

(and yes weight loss [changing body composition])

All weight on our waist & hips begins on our shoulders & heart.

All of those are symptoms  not the real issue or problem.

They're due to what's called S.A.D. 

Strategic Adaptive Defenses {coping strategies}

Yes, they can be worked through.

The Inquiry~
Why Am Like I am?

Why are/were my parents like that?

Why is my partner like they are?

Why can't, I they , change?

Everybody who ever has or will live

has a Brain & Nervous System.
Everybody who ever has or will live

has/had Parents-
who may be or have been Abusive, Neglectful, Absent/Abandon
or like mine sadly passed away.

It's rare to have perfect parenting.

Attachment Trauma can be major or minor

and still affect us according to how we internalize e and or cope with it. 

Some of us unfortunately may have had-
Abusive -Authoritarian/Totalitarian Parents - 

[Poisonous Pedagogy~Alice Miller]

Neglectful – Distant or even Narcissistic

[Emotionally Immature Parents ~Linda C Gibson}
and the Absent or Abandoning Parent -

The question is-

What do we know about what our

parents went through as children?

I always ask this Question:

Do we know-

who  hurt,

who hurt us?

We may too have been Bullied

or have PTSD as well and sadly

worse suffered Sexual Assault & Abuse
All of which may lead to

Trauma that directly affects your
Relationship with yourself,
Your Body
Your Partner-
It may lead to difficult relationships with
Substances -Alcohol, Drugs, Food-

Eating Disorders.

Willpower is an exhaustible resource.

So exercising (also) then feels like it

may be too much for our already

stressed system to handle.

Giving up comfort foods or

comforting substances

then being asked to exercise

(add more pain after taking away a comfort)

seems unbearable.

Remember-

Its not about proving but improving.

it's all about Incremental Acclamation~

I provide you with simple daily practices to increase

your capacity to improve & change from the inside out.

Did I mention they're playful & fun? 

Yes this training can be a Companion to
or Stepping Stone to Therapy..

I am happy to work with your therapist

if you have  or are considering one.

... The Journey is the Destination

just as  the Process is the Prize.

Many ask if Billy Sunday  Mars

is my real name~ believe me...

being called Billy Tuesday Jupiter

in grade school was no fun. :-)

I was named after my dad who was named after the Evangelist Preacher Billy Sunday. My dad was Greek and his father

shortened our name to Mars.

My mother was African American.

I was born in Boston Mass.

My journey to serve you began over 45 years ago when I was a 12yr. old artistic nerd whose father died 8yrs earlier, as a civilian, saving kids from a fire. I was dragged to the gym and taught to box by my uncle Norman Hayes who fought Jake Lamotta. -> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOrvdXXVRRA .-He was was a friend of Rocky Marciano. 

Like many of you ~

I'm no stranger to Trauma

I lost my dad at 4 and mom when I was 16 to cancer (she was 55) and later my younger brother who at 37 drank

through two, kidney transplants.

I later realized the fight she bravely lost wasn't to cancer nor my brother's to alcoholism or kidney failure.

Those, like most diseases, diabetes

(which my grandmother passed from)

were just *symptoms, subconscious shadows of traumatized Nervous Systems as are today's Race, Gender, Addiction, Social and shadows of traumatized Nervous Systems

as are today's Race, Gender, Addiction, Social and yes even Religious & Political seeming problems are not actually problems but preventable, and so curable symptoms.

Performing & training in China and Japan I was taught how to heal my and our nervous systems. I was provided with natural and compassionate ways to deal with (di)stress & diseases especially due to trauma. 

Distress & Disease, it turns out,

are only part of the reason we age 

Science shows we age, (if we allow it) our (Chi/libido) hormones and immune systems decline 100X faster at 50 than at 15 making it easier for us to gain weight, harder to lose it, to get sick and harder to recover.

That is where distress and disease

(and yes anger, aggression & violence) actually find their in. 

When I wrote Fit for Love, I explained how we can overcome issues that cause aging by learning how to love our partner & ourselves better.

Lack or loss of ability to feel or give love, intimacy, romance is often due to a lack, not only hormones, but as mentioned, the hardwired healing tendencies and capacities that facilitate them.

Healing to this place this is the foundation of a highly functional joyous life, doing what you love with who you love free from pain, discomfort and disease, physical, mental & emotional! 

What's different about my approach & why 

I can truly help you heal your Life & Love~

My time in Asia helped understanding and develop a type of

Spiritual Chivalry! as a result and opposed  to a Martial Art alone

I teach a  Marital Art uniting 

Transpersonal, Interpersonal

& Intrapersonal Training

fusing deeper teachings of Rumi, Jesus (in Aramaic), Buddha as well as psychologies & philosophies that deeply honor the Feminine.

Managing & Training people in High End Spas of Miami Beach as well as working at a

a High End Marin Addiction Clinic provided insights into not only unparalleled service provision & expectation- but awareness of the fact that in both cases people in both places were trying to achieve peace of mind.

Thus since I've merged with relentless studies of Interpersonal Neurobiology, Polyvagal Theory, attachment/trauma, psychoneuroimmunoendocrinology,

nutrition & supplementation.

I also use aspects of Addiction Treatment~CBT(Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)/ DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)/ MI (Motivational Interviewing)/

 ACT (Acceptance Commitment Therapy) as well as Schema Therapy

all while appreciating AA and what it's done for so many for so long.

 ~I am deeply honored by and committed to participating in your 

being better than your best for yourself and those you love!!

Healing Despair & Disconnection

What we consider Weight,

Relationship issues and Addictions

are actually only symptoms

As I said,

The weight/distress begins

on your shoulders and

in your heart which can

often feel incredibly heavy.

Addictions & Disease are 

Symptoms of  Disconnection.

It's not

nor has it ever been

about losing weight-but

gaining connection to yourself-

nor about being sexy enough-but

interpersonal communication.

The practice of that you can do anywhere

.Basically if you've got a door

and a floor you've got a gym.

More important~ 

The purpose of the AUMM GYM

far beyond just physical fitness

which I can easily help you achieve...

It's realizing 

Love & Peace, Health & Happiness

have never been about
Ending Anxiety, Depression,

Anger or worse Violence & War
Health & Happiness aren’t about

Breaking Addictions ie.

Unhealthy Drinking, Drugging,

Smoking or Eating Habits.

Health & Happiness aren’t about curing
Diseases, Diabetes, Obesity, or Losing Weight.

Peace, Love & Life –

Health & Happiness are about your
relationship with yourself

(spirit/mind/body)

and with others.

It's understood
Addictions -Acting Out (self harm)

Violence -Lashing Out (other harm) 

-Despair Induced Displacement Aggression.

Depression – Shutting Down

(Sadly too Suicide)
All are Symptoms of

Lack of Connection-
Attachment Issues 

 Dysregulation within Oneself

and with others.

Health & Happiness are about Gaining Connection & Reconnection
to Your True Self, Self-Regulation

& Co Regulation with Others.

Interestingly to Jesus in Aramaic,

the term sin means disconnection

from who we truly are Intrapersonally

our partner if we have one Interpersonally

(as well as familial & social)

& yes who we may understand as

God or Source. - Transpersonally

Transpersonal means moving beyond

(transcending) our persona.

Interestingly the word Persona means

the mask we speak from behind.

Aka The Ego- our

Strategic Adaptive Defenses-(S.A.D.)

And...

The word Re-ligion only actually

means our process or method of

re- connecting.

Re- means again

Ligare- means ligament

like in your knee.

So it's nothing to do with

us being bad people- 

It's all about healing what's

causing our disconnecting.

It's about developing (healing)

to the point we no longer need

and can take off our Armor

 & yes our Mask.

Thank You for Reading!